Change and Grow!
These are, without any doubt, the two most marking words of my professional life, over the last 15 years, dedicated to the treatment of various types of addictions and behavioral disorders.
They are naturally related to my own change and growth regarding the way of seeing, understanding, feeling and approaching the treatment of all types of addictions and behavioral disorders and, mainly, to the change and growth of all of those who I have been privileged to follow, either in treatment and in their subsequent recovery processes, or in their social, laboral and familiar integration.
I've started my professional career directed to the treatment of additions and behavioral disturbs, in England. While finishing my studies, I joined, as a coach, a treatment center that, at the time, was a world leader in the treatment of additions (drugs and alcohol).
In this treatment center, we used a traditional therapeutic model based on a specific program, whose focus resided not in the situations encountered, but the feelings experienced and lived in those same situations.
As I got better knowing, applying, exploring and transmitting this program to all those who needed it in order to live a completely free life, I witnessed the change and growth that its application promoted in all of those that addapted it for their lifes, with an attitude of goodwill, humility and honesty.
In fact, I found that all the individuals who applied it and practiced it in their lives on a daily basis, became able to overcome their dependencies, achieving simultaneously a personal development that open them for a inner growth, also enabling them to obtain free, fulfilled and happy lives.
By noticing those results, I was overtaken by two questions whose answers came up to reveal as fundamental for my personal and professional future:
Some of the reasons were:
Well... these were some of the answers that I've received, among others .....
By analyzing all of them, I realized that the only obstacle that prevented the possibility of applying that traditional model on a more open and comprehensive way, allowing everyone to use it, was the fact that its focus for identification was specificaly based on the root of the problem (disorder/dependence).
As I was used to deal with problems, I thought that, like all the others, this would be one more problem for which I would have to find the solution ...
By placing myself before the duality Problem/Solution, I realized that although not all individuals are able to identify through the root of their problems, all can identify through the search of their solutions .
This thought was, actually, the first step towards the realization of a new concept aimed at personal development, named Change & Grow ®.
A new concept whose emphasis should be placed not on the element that promotes the separation of those who have problems, ie, their origin and their differences, but in a new and much more positive element, that would promote the union, the empathy and the identification of all the individuals, regardless of their problems, diseases or even for the lack of one or the other…
Despite knowing, in advance, that the decision to develop this new concept, as always happens with all the innovative ideas that break with the standardized ones, was going to generate some discussion and even controversy, I decided that this was a challenge to which I could not "turn my back ".
Since then, I started to develop this new concept, named Change & Grow®, that, by having it's focus of identification on the solutions and not on the problems, on the similarities and not on differences, also making each one responsible for the achievement of their well-being, enables any individual, regardless of his problem, addiction or even their inexistence, to find strategies to outweigh the difficulties of their day to day life, in order to achieve a suitable, stable, responsible, fulfilled and happy life.
Eduardo da Silva, 2012
Living in the solution…